Feeling distant, disillusioned, or at odds with your partner, and wondering if couples therapy is the next right step?

I specialize in helping teach couples the skills to move through relational challenges, so that the inevitable 'fork in the road' moments lead to richer connection and partnership rather than disconnection. Some examples of couples I work well with include…

• Couples who seem on the outside to ‘have it all together’ and be peaceful, but on the inside feel disconnected and like they are ‘walking on eggshells’

• Couples who love each other but find themselves in a ‘swirl’ of triggers and reactions that derail their feelings of being safe in the relationship

• Couples who feel ‘stuck’ and like they can’t move toward their goals/dreams (or can’t agree on what those goals/dreams are)

Regardless of the issues that bring the couple into therapy, the root causes can be traced back to nervous system dysregulation, trauma history, insecure attachment, and ineffective patterns of communication. The way forward includes processing the wounds you each bring, and each of you getting to practice both sharing and listening while guided by me to maintain emotional regulation.

In couples sessions, each partner is supported to:

1. Identify their own personal wants/needs, and hopes for the relationship, and be able to share them with their partner.

2. Understand and take ownership of their own individual triggers, attachment patterns and behaviors in the relationship.

3. Practice new ways of relating with themself and their partner, such as building tolerance for differences of opinion, listening to understand their partner, being more open and vulnerable, and working to regulate emotions.

I am committed to helping each person become the partner they need to be in order to be in the thriving relationship they envision. This means we skip wasting time pointing fingers at what your partner needs to change, and get to the deeper work of two partners each working toward their own healing, and the health of their relationship. The result is a relationship where challenges, hurts, and stressors become opportunities to lean in and grow rather than threatening events that divide.